-LESSON LEARNING, A Soul Trapping Concept

The human concept of “Learning Lessons” has trapped mankind in an endless evolutionary standstill for many…MANY years. We are stuck playing an outdated game where both parties usually lose. From Agnostic Theism to Zen Buddhism this concept of “Learning Lessons” can be found within all religions.

It is time to move on! In order to do that, we have to understand what has been happening. We need to see what the mechanics of “Learning Lessons” is based on, so we can create a new more healthy foundation for life and living it.

-OLD SCHOOL

The old/current way: Negative Life Experience (abusive relationship, disease, struggle etc) = The result of 1. a test God is putting us through, 2. my higher-self’s choosing, 3. past-life karma (sin), 4. karma (sin) in general or 5. a spiritual contract made with others.

Looking at the NLEs we had or are going through, we need…we want to make sense of them. So like with anything else in our lives, we assign meaning. The majority of the human race believes in some sort of Higher Power. Believing that there is a Higher Power, the first thought is that this Higher Power is just messing with us because IT can. This doesn’t sit well with the psyche. We remedy this idea with the concept that “Bad things happen to us because God is making us better.” or “We chose to have this experience in order to grow (be better).” This implies that we are some how not good enough the way this Higher Power created us. We won’t be opening that can of worms this time around. Instead we will be opening a different can of worms, the kind that slowly eat your soul from the inside out.  

-CAN OF WORMS

In reality, the majority of what happens to us as adults is an inside job, not something imposed on us by some outside cruel or testing force. What controls our lives are programs, mostly unintentional, planted in our unconscious minds by experiences and our interpretation of those experiences.

Let’s say a woman is stuck in an abusive relationship. Side note here, abuse is abuse! Emotional abuse can be worse than physical abuse leaving scars that never heal. There are lots of “learning” angles we could take this from: she needs to learn to stand up for herself, she is being punished for past sins, etc etc. We’ll take the easiest angle to get the point across. Let’s say she needs to learn the lesson of “self respect.” This person is stuck in this relationship or one similar to it until the lesson of “self respect” is learned. This actually makes sense, because she won’t get out until she starts thinking about herself. This sounds plausible, but…

By stepping back and looking at this woman’s entire life, we can see something else happening. This “something” is usually not looked at because we stop and play with the concept of “Learning Lessons.”

-SOMETHING STINKS

As a child this woman’s parents were always arguing and fighting, because they like her had married based on their programming. Her mother was a kind woman, overly kind. Her mother over compensating for not feeling accepted by her own mother was now an emotional martyr. Unconsciously martyring herself so people would like her. Her dad was a good enough man. He had a temper but he never hit her. He was always away doing his own thing. The little girl interpreted this as him not wanting her. When in truth he hated his wife and didn’t want to be around her, but he stayed married because of his own programming. Her mother made this unintentional worse by say things like, “Your dad is such a selfish S.O.B.!” Hearing this repeatedly imprinted the little girl with the program “When I do something for myself I’m being selfish like my father. I don’t want to be like my father because he made me and my mom sad.” Add this to the other assorted programs she collected and SHAZAAM!!!

This little girl’s adult life would have been vastly different without this programming. This programming is why some men and women will allow themselves to fall into an abusive relationship when others won’t.

Years ago, there were two male massage therapists in trouble because of inappropriate touching. There were a few women who had a bad experience. One of them came to me after being encouraged by a friend to contact me. We talked about what happened to her, and I gave her the number to report her incident. This particular person had been to the therapist at least three times, and each time something happened. A week or so later, I was working on a client who had seen something in the paper about an investigation of the two therapist. My client and I were talking and she asked me if I knew anything about it. As we talked, she said “If he had touched me there I would have stood up and punched him in his face.” Why would one woman allow this to happen a few times, and another would stop it right up front? Did one woman have a lesson to learn about boundaries or self-respect?

The answer is PROGRAMMING. What appears to be lessons we need to learn are really results of our unconscious minds being programmed during childhood. These programs/glitches in consciousness run our lives. This programming affects ALL aspects of life not just who we marry.

-I AIN’T YOUR PACK MULE

Like the Stones sang, “I’ll never be your beast of burden. My back is broad but its a hurting…” Why is your back hurting? I thought you weren’t going to be my beast of burden.

These issues/programs we have accumulated we “PUT ON” others. This has been happening so long that it’s become second nature.

Billy’s unconscious says, “I have an issue and I am placing it on you. It is your responsibility to play the role this program demands. As a matter of fact, our relationship will be based on his program.”

Jill’s unconscious responds, “Okay, and you do the same for me.”

As a matter of fact, we draw to ourselves the perfect people, entities, jobs and environments to full fill these programs. For example, an abuser’s program needs someone that has programming that will allow the abuser to abuse them. The abusee consciousness keeps the need for the abuser consciousness alive. It all fits so nicely together, but it doesn’t have to be this way. We can move forward and up from this limiting game of consciousness.

-A NEW WAY

Look at the “something” beneath your NLE’s and work to clear those programs up. As more and more people do this there will be fewer programs being planted in the “Collective Consciousness” which affects all life on earth.

Start honestly communicating with your kids. It is time for adults to be more aware of what their interactions with children are doing. It may seem like they’re unable to fully comprehend what we’re saying, but they are better off when we talk with them. Taking the time to explain things to your children can short-circuit many unneeded NLE’s which come from the interpretations they make. Don’t let them draw their own conclusions. We need to stop feeding our children from the same poisonous tree (limited collective consciousness) everyone has been eating from.

Practice the Kiss of Judas.

-JUDAS’ KISS – Karma Release

I love when Jesus kisses Judas after Judas has betrayed him. For me it represents the absolving/forgiving of karma (pain inflected.) Jesus kisses Judas knowing he did the best he could in a world that’s playing a game.

For me, karma is yet another concept that enslaves many. If you take into consideration what has been discussed above and fully grok it, than holding a grudge is a useless waste of time and ties us energetically to people, places and situation we are better off being free of and from.

I would love the world to practice the “Kiss of Judas” all the time, whether we find ourselves playing Judas or not.

-Jon